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As I was driving to work today, a lady on the radio said something that was really unsettling to me. Not surprising, oh no, I’d definitely heard it many times before. But today it just hit me how we are totally letting this happen without caring about the potential consequences. These consequences may seem insignificant to you, but they aren’t. They have the power to transform lives.

 

What am I talking about? So glad you asked 🙂

 

I’m talking about the way that people walking on the streets interact with the people living on the streets.

 

Out of fear, disgust, or distrust, we may not reach out a helping hand to the homeless people that we pass by. I understand. I’ve been there and I will continue to be. It’s hard to know what to do, and even harder to be brave enough to take action.

 

So what do I think is holding us back? (Please feel free to comment with what holds you back personally!)

 

We Just Don’t Care

 

We’re selfish. We’re busy. We’re distracted. When you pass someone who is homeless, what do you do? In large cities, it’s so easy to become immune to these individuals. You see them everyday, and it just becomes ordinary and routine. Our minds are so wrapped up in our plans and to-do lists for the day that we don’t stop to think about whether or not that person is going to have his or her basic needs yet.

 

When was the last time that they had food? Water? A shower? Felt safe?

 

We can’t answer because we don’t engage. We pass by without even blinking and don’t think twice about it. It’s the easiest to do, right? I’m not being judgemental of you or anyone else. I’m completely guilty of this too! I’ve been to NYC 10 times, and each time I’ve passed by homeless people without stopping to engage or assist.

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We Are Scared

 

This is the one that I relate to the most. I will admit that I often get anxious. Not necessarily because they live on the streets, but because they are strangers and I never know what to expect. I have this strange fear that they will jump up and attack me. I’ve watched the movies and heard the horror stories. I know that the danger is real, but I personally don’t believe that it should prevent us from helping. There’s evil everywhere. We live in a broken, messed up world. But as good ole Dumbledore said, “Soon we must all make the choice between what is right and what is easy.” 🙂

 

I’m not saying that we shouldn’t be cautious. We should, the world is a scary place! If you’re alone, then don’t feel like you have to give someone a ride or do something that could put you in a dangerous situation. Always practice caution. But don’t let fear hold you back from transforming a life. Because that is what you can do!

 

We Judge Them

 

This is the one that breaks my heart the most. I hate hearing people’s judgements of the poor or homeless. “They deserve it” “They probably blew everything they had on drugs” “They need to get off their lazy butts and do something about it instead of sitting here holding a sign” “Why don’t they just go get a job?” “Not my fault they don’t know how to work hard like the rest of us” “They’ll just spend the money on drugs”

 

I could go on for a while, but I’m sure I don’t need to. If you’re anything like me, then you’re definitely guilty of judging a homeless individual at one time or another. I’m really working on changing my thoughts about it, and I hope to change yours as well. Here’s some statistics for you:

 

92% of homeless women have experienced severe physical and/or sexual violence in their lifetime – ReThink Homelessness

 

Each year 500 homeless teens are buried in unmarked graves. – ReThink Homelessness

 

In January 2015, 564,708 people were homeless on a given night in the United States. – National Alliance to End Homelessness

 

About 15% of the homeless population (83,170) are considered “chronically homeless” individuals. – National Alliance to End Homelessness

 

Quotes for you from the National Alliance –

 

“Typically, families become homelessness as a result of some unforeseen financial emergency- a medical emergency, a car accident, a death in the family – that prevents them from being able to hold on to housing.”

 

“Young people often become homeless due to family conflict, including divorce, neglect or abuse.”

 

“Veterans often become homeless due to war-related disabilities. For a variety of reasons – physical disability, mental anguish, post-traumatic stress, etc. – many veterans find readjusting to civilian life difficult.”

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What We Can Do (Blessing bags)

 

There are a lot of ways in which you can help this population. Donate to a local food bank, serve dinner at a soup kitchen, give to charities and organizations like the Salvation Army.

 

You probably know this already. But what if you’re in a car, driving to the store, and you come across someone who is homeless.

 

What can you do?

 

Make a blessing bag!! That’s what I did when this situation recently happened to me! I was with one of my besties and we were headed to Wal-Mart. After seeing the individual, I knew that I wanted to do something. I had a read an article on Pinterest forever ago that talked about how this lady was making what she called Blessing Bags and handing them out to individuals that she met who were homeless.

 

My friend and I knew that THAT was the perfect solution. There was no need to worry about what he/she would do with the money that we gave, because instead it would have to be used to fulfill all of his basic needs. We bought travel sized shampoo, conditioner, soap, deodorant, toothbrush, toothpaste, food, and water. We put it all in one Wal-Mart sack and handed it to him (with some encouraging and kind words!) from our car as we passed him when we exited the lot.

 

It worked brilliantly, and he was so overjoyed. I’ve read so many stories all over Facebook about how small gestures like blessing bags can make huge changes in people’s lives. They can give them hope. They can help them take the next step or even just get through another day.

 

And the great part is, blessing bags are SO easy to make! You can customize them and include a personal note of encouragement and love. You can make several at once and store them or carry them with you in a backpack if you know you will need them.

 

Even better news, is that I have made a FREE BLESSING BAGS PRINTABLE CHECKLIST! Yay! Click here for it – you don’t want miss an important item ! But also don’t forget to make it your own and customize!

 

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Why We Should Celebrate More Birthdays

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Once a year you have a birthday. You may not think it’s a big deal and perhaps you don’t even like to celebrate your one special day. 

But I think you should! If you don’t want to, then…I guess I understand. (Although birthdays are so much fun and I totally encourage you to make it a great day for yourself!) However, you absolutely should celebrate the birthdays of your friends and family members!

We need to celebrate more birthdays. Why? Well..

 

  1. You Get to Build Someone Up

Okay I realize that there really isn’t an excuse for not encouraging people everyday. We should definitely do it! But birthdays are a great reminder to spread kindness and lift people up. In today’s society, you often see special birthday shout-outs on social media. I think this is so great! It really makes the birthday girl/boy feel valued and appreciated it. The key with this kind of post is to make it meaningful. You could say, “Hey I love ya, happy birthday.” But it would be much more impactful to caption it with how wonderful the person is, how thankful you are for her/him, and why you love her/him.

I realize it seems like a lot of work. And it definitely can be! I don’t do social media posts for birthdays nearly as much as I used to. And that’s okay! Posts are great for those that you have a super close relationship with. But you can still build someone up even if you don’t want to plaster it all over social media!

Send them a thoughtful card, email, or even text message.

Spread the love and let them know that you’re thinking about them on their special day. Once again, it will mean much more to people to hear encouragement and praise beyond the traditional, “Happy Birthday!” It doesn’t take long to check Facebook for today’s birthdays and then shoot someone a quick text if you need to. If they are anything like me, then I’m sure they will be thrilled that you took a minute out of your day to lift them up!

Why We Need to Celebrate More Birthdays

 

  1. You Get to Reach Out to People You May Have Forgotten About

This (see above header) is one reason that I am thankful for social media. It lets you stay connected (sometimes too connected!) to people who you may have drifted away from due to time, distance, etc. Old high school friends will pop up on my feed on their birthday. Look at this as a blessing! Now you get the opportunity to write a quick happy birthday message on their wall. This doesn’t have to be lengthy. The previously-mentioned-should-be-thoughtful-post was for a friend or family member. Short messages are great for acquaintances! They will` likely be so appreciative that you took the time out of your day to wish them joy.  And how great is it to contribute to making their day the best one yet? It’s a small gesture that can go a long way.

Why We Need to Celebrate More Birthdays

 

  1. You Get to Show That You Care

Birthdays, especially for loved ones, are a lot more than just a thoughtful message. Actions speak louder than words, right? That is why it is so important that you celebrate the day by doing something. Take them out to dinner, throw them a surprise party, buy them a thoughtful gift, bake them a cake. The possibilities are endless! You know what the birthday girl/boy likes and dislikes. Do something special to show them that you care. I love giving people cupcakes or making them a homemade (and terrible, I have zero crafting skills) card. My roommates are great at thoughtful actions! They will decorate with streamers and balloons so that I wake up to a special surprise. A sweet gesture doesn’t have to be expensive or time-consuming. Just make it thoughtful and personal. They will likely never forget it!

Why We Need to Celebrate More Birthdays

 

  1. Because You Never Know When It Will Be Their Last

I hate to turn a happy post into a sad one, but this is a HUGE reason why we should celebrate birthdays. After year 21, people tend to stop getting excited about their special day. This is, in my opinion, a tragedy! Birthdays are a great time to reflect on the year. You can think back to the highs/lows and be thankful for everything that you were given. You can even appreciate the hardships and struggles, because you pulled through and are stronger because of it.

Celebrate the people you love because we aren’t promised a tomorrow. You never know which birthday is going to be someone’s last, so cherish your loved ones and love on them as much as you can. It’s easy to get wrapped up in ourselves and we like to stress about just how busy we are. But let’s make a change. Let’s make the day extraordinary for the people we love. Don’t they deserve it?

I’m in no way paid for this post, but I’d like to end with a way that you can make a difference! Imagine a world with more birthdays. The American Cancer Society is striving to “create a world with less cancer and more birthdays” and you can join the fight! Click here to learn about Relay for Life and how you can donate to the cause, raise awareness, and fight alongside those that are battling cancer. Let’s celebrate more birthdays!
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What We Can Learn From Williams Syndrome

What We Can Learn From Williams SyndromeIndividuals with Williams Syndrome face a lot of difficulties. However, they are born with an incredible “superpower” that I believe is way undervalued and overlooked in our society. They are born with a talent for being kind.

 

What Is Williams Syndrome?

 

Williams Syndrome is a genetic condition that is characterized by cardiovascular anomalies and developmental disabilities. According to Williams Syndrome Association, it affects 1 in 10,000 people in the world, and is not exclusive to a particular gender or culture. Heart defects are a common problem among these individuals, and they can also have unusual facial features. They are generally considered to have “Elfin’ faces” due to their full lips, wide-spaced teeth, depressed nasal bridge, and broad forehead. (Due to copyright purposes, I can’t legally show you a picture for an example. Google it sometime!)

 

They are also known for having “stars in their eyes” due to a star-like pattern in the iris. Infants with Williams Syndrome may have difficulty feeding or chronic middle ear infections, which can both be problematic for their health. They may have mild to severe intellectual disabilities, developmental delays, musculoskeletal problems, elevated blood calcium levels, or increased risks for ADHD or anxiety disorders.

 

However, individuals with WS are extremely friendly and talkative. They love to be social and are super extroverted. They have high language skills, but this can lead to a lack of social constraint due to how friendly they are toward strangers. They have difficulty with pragmatics, meaning that they have trouble understanding nonverbal gestures and listening rather than talking in a conversation. They may have restricted or repetitive interests or have difficulty interpreting abstract language. Interestingly enough, these individuals may have an unusually strong aptitude for music.

 

What Can We Learn From Them?

 

God created these beautiful individuals for a purpose. They are not flawed, they are wonderfully and fearfully made. Yes, they may have to endure a lot of hardships and difficulties. But they have mastered the concept of loving people. They want to be friends with everyone they meet. They aren’t worried about what other people think of them and they don’t fear rejection from striking up a conversation. They don’t hold back their friendliness. They spread joy. They love to dance. They have beautiful souls and they just want to talk to you.

We have so much to learn from these individuals.

 

  1. Don’t Be Afraid to Say Hello.

 

“Don’t let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game.” – A Cinderella Story. This is a great quote because we should never let the fear of failure or mistakes to keep us from trying. Don’t be worried about your pride or potential embarrassment. Say hi to people! Embrace some wisdom from those with WS and learn to be friendly.

What We Can Learn From Williams Syndrome

 

  1. Love On Anyone and Everyone.

 

What We Can Learn From Williams SyndromeIndividuals with WS are open to talk to whomever they come in contact with. Even strangers are potential friends, and their kind hearts are welcoming and loving. They are typically quick to help people and are empathetic to those who are hurting. In the video below, you can watch as the toddler with WS reaches out to comfort a fallen stranger unlike most children his age. While it is important to have constraints for safety purposes, I think we can learn a lot about unconditional love from these individuals. How often does your kindness correlate with your opinion of someone? How often do you knowingly or unknowingly judge someone or treat someone differently based on an assumption or stereotype? Kindness is free, and the world needs more of it. Let’s be open to sharing it.

 

I am in no way trying to trivialize the syndrome or the difficulties that can go along with it. People with WS are people just like you and me. They also need your support, love, and special treatment/therapy to help them with their medical and social concerns. But we can also learn a thing or two from their openness. We can learn how to be more kind.

What We Can Learn From Williams Syndrome

 

For more information or just to watch a heartwarming video, click here. And click here if you’re looking for ways to help or get involved with the association.

 

What are some more things we could learn from Williams Syndrome? What are other disabilities/syndromes/conditions that could teach us kindness or other valuable life lessons? Let me know in the comments!

 

 

With love,

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3 Simple Ways to Practice Kindness

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We probably all agree that kindness is a good thing. We also can agree that the world needs more of it. Yet have we stopped and looked inside the mirror? (cue Michael Jackson’s Man in the Mirror). The world needs more of it, but what does this look like? How do we go about being more kind” to the people we interact with each day? It may seem unrealistic or complicated (I definitely thought so at first), but I’m here to make it super easy. So what are 3 simple ways to practice kindness?

  1. Look Behind You

3 Simple Ways to Practice Kindness Today | adventuresandkindness.comStory time. Okay so the other day I was walking to class, going to work, and eating at a restaurant. (All very normal things, right?) Except this time it was different. I began to notice the behavior of the people around me. First, I noticed that we open and close a lot of doors. (I promise this is relevant, just hang tight!) Second, we have tunnel vision. We look straight ahead, and we rarely glance anywhere else. Our eyes are fixed on what lies up ahead…or fixed on our phone. (we’ll get there in #3, no worries)

These two characteristics are the reasons why sometimes we’re walking behind someone and as we approach a door, they just let it close in our faces. It can annoy us and frustrate us, and it is something that is so preventable! On the other hand, whenever someone holds the door open for us we tend to be impressed and thankful. It’s such an easy thing to do. You open doors all the time. But when you do,  look behind you. If someone is back there, then pause to hold the door open for them. Think about all of the millions of times you open a door during the course of your day. That’s a lot of possibilities to brighten someone’s day and show a little kindness. And it’s so easy!

 

  1. Embrace Interruptions

Our society values speed. We want everything to be fast, easy, and convenient. We live busy, rushed lives that allow us to jam pack as many activities and appointments in as possible. There’s barely enough time to eat and sleep, let alone time to be interrupted when we’re in the middle of something important (and basically everything seems important).

But the other day at work, a coworker that I hadn’t seen in awhile came in and asked about my break. I, of course, did the automatic response of “It was good, how was yours?” Surface level and very lame, yes, but we’ve never worked the same shift before so I didn’t think to come up with a better response.

Then she did something that surprised me. She sighed and said, “not so good.” As she began to describe the struggle that her family was facing, I realized that she just needed to be heard. She just needed someone to listen and tell her that it was all going to be okay. How often do we miss those opportunities to just listen? Opportunities to drop what we’re doing and focus on someone else? We overlook them all the time, but we shouldn’t.

When someone interrupts you, what do you do? Get annoyed and try to quickly get back to what you were doing? (I know I’m guilty of it!) But just think- what’s more important, the person or the task? When you prioritize people, you end up practicing kindness in the most rewarding way.

 

What's more important, the person? or the task?

 

  1. Make Eye Contact

The other day I was talking about an old classmate of mine, and I was super complimentary of how genuine and kind he was. I told someone, “When you talk to him, it’s like he’s really listening. He makes everyone feel special.”

The more I thought about it, the more I realized what made him so different from everyone else. When this guy asked you a question, he didn’t halfheartedly listen. He didn’t interrupt. He didn’t look down at his phone or off into the distance. He looked directly into your eyes.

It doesn’t seem like a big deal, but eye contact is important. It’s a social cue that shows you are interested in what the speaker has to say. It shows that you care, and that you’re listening.

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When we talk to people, don’t we want to feel heard? And don’t we want people to know that we care about them? Let’s try and really listen. Let’s direct our eyes (and our attention) back where it belongs.

 

These 3 simple ways to practice kindness are realistic and applicable. Try it out today. Look behind you when you open a door. Embrace interruptions, and prioritize people over your to-do list. Make eye contact, and show people that you care about what they have to say. It’s as easy as 1-2-3! 🙂

Do you think these 3 things are easy enough to do? What are some more simple ways to practice kindness? Let me know in the comments!

 

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The Kindness Challenge

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The Kindness Challenge- I’m not always good at being kind. I don’t know about you, but there are a lot of things that happen throughout my day that can sometimes build (and build) to create a frustrated and snappy Emily. It’s really not pleasant.

It can be simple things too, like spilling something on my shirt (I will admit I do this way too often) or misplacing my phone for the millionth time. I’ve learned that it is really easy to get wrapped up in all of the things that can go wrong, even in just the first hour of my day. For example:

  • I didn’t hear my alarm and now I’m running late. (Panic, yes definitely panic, it will help.)
  • I’ve pulled out almost every item in my closet and I’m still not dressed. (Daily quote- “I have nothing to wear!”)
  • The traffic is crazy and I have to be at work ASAP. (Whyyyy?)

Life can be stressful. There are so many ways to get frustrated. So many things to complain about. But the problem is,

 

soon we will have to speak to someone.

 

It may be a roommate, spouse, or family member. It may be the neighbor watering his plants or the friendly lady who works at the front desk. It’s so tempting to take out your stress and crankiness on the first person that you see. But just because it’s tempting, doesn’t mean that we should do it. Yes, we have rough days sometimes. Yes, something will likely go wrong today. But it’s how we respond to life’s demands and frustrations that reveals the condition of our heart.

 

So how do we respond?

We can respond two ways: kindly or unkindly. What the person “deserves” is irrelevant. That isn’t up to us to decide. We don’t know what they’ve been dealing with today, yesterday, or all last year. Everyone is struggling with something, and everyone could use a little more kindness in their lives. We have a gift that we can give them. It’s free, but it does require a little effort. We can give the gift of kindness.

We can brighten someone’s day, and even brighten our own by letting go of the negativity and focusing on all the positives. Today, you are alive. Today, something will go wrong. Today, you can choose to respond with kindness.

It’s definitely a challenge. Are you up to it? I’ve created a 30-day Kindness Challenge that I will be doing over the next few weeks. Join me! It can be done in any order, and there’s no need to feel guilty for not completing everything. The goal is to simply challenge yourself. It’s not always easy, but it’s rewarding. Stay tuned, my friends, as I write about the Kindness Challenge/practicing kindness!

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